In late November 2023, I opened my eyes after my morning meditation and realized I had completely healed my mother wound. It felt and still feels miraculous. In that moment, I suddenly loved my mother so completely and unconditionally and had nothing but compassion and understanding towards her, so much so that I felt like I NEEDED to visit her (something I was never fond of doing in the past; I always felt obligated to call or visit her on Mother's day or her birthday). This healing has continued; I really like visiting her and sitting with her, just being in her presence. And her energy has changed towards me, too: she always asks if I'll be staying the night and if I can stay longer, expresses concern if I'm driving in the dark and always tells me to visit more often. She never judges me anymore! That's a miracle.

One recent morning, I was thinking of times I used to visit my parents as an adult and something my mother would always do was go through my backpack or suitcase when I wasn't in the room. At the time it drove me crazy! How disrespectful and nosy! But now, my mind goes to instant forgiveness and understanding. Instead of feeling angry and thinking: "how dare she?!" I think, "well, she didn't ever have much to do, she was probably bored, maybe she thought she'd find something exciting or scandalous." 

When I tell people about this healing, "wow!" is the response I get most often. But you might be thinking, "so what?" And this is my answer: the relationship we have with our mother is the most important relationship we ever have, so it is the most important relationship for us to heal. We are literally inside our mother's body for about forty weeks, feeling all her feelings. That's a long time! We are so connected to our mother that we don't even know we're separate from her, even after our birth, for quite awhile and now that I have done the deep work on this, I believe there are parts of us that continue to believe we are our mother throughout our life. I just did an exercise today on a feeling of fear I was experiencing and realized that that particular fear wasn't ever mine, it was just something I was carrying in my energetic system that belonged to my mother (and her mother before her, and so on). So healing our mother wound is also healing generational wounds. Bonus!

Our mother is our most powerful role model: for a person, for a woman, for a wife or significant other, for a sister and of course, for a mother. We learn so much from her. Our subconscious programming is filled with our mother's words, beliefs and behaviors. So if your mother was a perfect mother and gave you lots of good programming, congratulations! You don't need any healing in this area. But if you had a less than perfect childhood, which informs the rest of your life, you have a mother wound.

Mothers are often idealized as saintly, perfect, self-sacrificing beings that give everything up for their children. But there is no such thing as a perfect mother. Mothers are human beings and they have their own wounds, which they got from their own mother and so on back through the generations. This is not about finding or placing blame. This is about empowering ourselves to heal so we can be who we are truly meant to be.  

From the time I learned I had this deep mother wound in May 2016, to when I felt it was completely healed in November 2023, I did A LOT of work on myself. Just about every hypnotherapy session I had was about that relationship. I learned a timeline hypnotherapy process in 2020 and every session of that process took me back to the womb or to the moment of conception. I learned a chakra healing process that I worked through for three years and released so much resentment, anger, hurt and sadness that I used to have towards my mother. I had a generational healing process and that was mostly about my relationship with my mother. In a past life regression I had during a workshop, she was there.

Recently I've been doing some work with polyvagal theory and attachment theory and as you might have guessed, these also have to do with our formative childhood relationships, the most important being the one with our mother. 

Now that I have healed this first, deepest, most important wound for myself and I feel the effects of this transformation in my life so profoundly, I designed a program that includes all of the most important things I did. If you have nothing but unconditional love and compassion towards your mother, you don't need this. But if you can't talk to your mother, or can't be around her for very long, if you butt heads with her, disagree with her, feel anything but great in her presence or when you think about her, I highly recommend you check this out. Even if your mother isn't in an earthly body anymore, you can heal your mother wound. If I did it, anyone can do it!

This is the most powerful healing you can give to yourself. Before healing this, I NEVER for one second thought I could feel this complete unconditional love and compassion towards my mother. When I think of her, my heart opens and I smile! All the energy that was going towards any low-vibration feelings towards her is now freed up for everything else I want to do. I would love to share this with anyone who needs it. 

Thank you for reading. Let me know what you think! I'd love to hear from you. 

Love, Kasia